I believe that addiction is any process or behaviour which keeps us away from our own uncomfortable reality, there are some examples listed above. This is not an exhaustive list but these are the ones I have most experience working with. The general belief around addiction is that the sufferer is weak willed, but in reality the opposite is true. Take for example the anorexic, how weak willed do you need to be to starve yourself to death. Sounds extreme but this is the nature of addiction. It is my opinion that addiction and associated problems such as anxiety, phobias,and obsessive compulsive disorders are primarily fear based. The sufferer has an inner conflict and becomes fearful of being afraid, and so develops ways of controlling emotions on the pretense of being in control, and so addictive processes and behaviours take root and the consequences keep our heads busy and so we feel safe. This is why we find it so difficult to stay stopped once we initially become free of our drug or behaviour of choice. We need to change the way we think. The active disease is very powerful, so powerful that it controls the sufferer via obsession, convincing him or her that their behaviour no matter how insane, is perfectly normal. Only when the consequences of living an addictive lifestyle outweigh the benefits of using does the sufferer begin to acknowledge there is a very real problem and eventually seek help. Denial is a major obstacle, remember this powerful disease is constantly convincing the sufferer that all is well despite warnings, and dire consequences. The inner conflict is enormous. Do I face my fear and recover, or continue to use, and follow a path toward ultimate destruction. For those without this illness the decision would be simple, just stop, but to the sufferer it is the hardest decision he or she may ever make.
Unlike most forms of treatment for the illness of addiction the program I have developed embraces the needs and requirements of each individual as an individual. Exploring their needs in respect of achieving and maintaining an ongoing recovery. Each program is tailored to meet the needs of the individual, and consists of exploration of self and the issues behind our behaviours, education around the disease of addiction and its effects upon ourselves and our families our those closest to us. You will be given the opportunity to learn to cope with life on life's terms without the destructive aid of your drug or behaviour of choice. You will learn that you have choices in life and that there is hope, and change is possible. This is all achievable with difficult emotional work during one to one counselling sessions, sometimes intensive. Sessions vary and are based on the needs and abilities of each individual, and are assessed prior to commencement and adjusted as needs arise. Families and or loved ones will be encouraged to get involved in the recovery and education process both separately and with you. (This is only a recommendation).
How it works
(1) Acknowledge there are problems in your life which are becoming overwhelming,
(2) Seek help, initial assessment as to the depth of the problems,
(3) Counselling begins, with one hour sessions along with telephone support,
(4) Cross addiction awareness education,
(5) Full exploration of life story and relevant events, examining the way our behaviours develop and act as coping mechanisms designed to protect and supposedly keep us safe,
(6) Learning to recognise our thinking and challenge old obsolete thinking patterns,
(7) Introduce new thinking practices into everyday life,
(8) Accept life on life's terms and embrace challenges as they arise,
(9) Recognise that fear is a perfectly healthy and normal part of life, and so, embrace it rather than avoid it.